Helping a child after a sudden loss

Explain simply

Use honest, age-appropriate words. Explain that the person has died, rather than saying they have gone to sleep. Answer questions gently and admit when you do not know an answer.

Listen without pressure

A child may be sad, angry, quiet or want to play. Their feelings can change. Let them ask the same question again, and make clear that the death was not their fault.

Keep trusted adults close

Tell the school or other caregivers what has happened. Keep everyday routines as steady as you can. Offer choices about remembering the person, without requiring the child to take part.

Get extra help when needed

Ask a health professional or child bereavement service for support if you are concerned about how the child is coping. Seek urgent local help if there is an immediate safety concern.